What an Incredible Year It’s Been
I can honestly say that the last three years have been the best time of my life. I met and married the most handsome, romantic, smart and funny guy I have ever met. It was a blessing just to meet him, much less become “his girl”. My daughter entered high school, got a great summer job that has evolved into year-round employment that she loves, and is generally a happy kid. I continue to have many avenues to exert my energy with multiple jobs and artistic and entreprenueurial outlets and I still manage to be online a lot. This blog continues to let me meet the most wonderful people.
My being online has made my writing life richer. It was through the Internet that I met my precious friend, Jerry Wilson and his beautiful wife, Jacky. Jerry was the one who taught me how to blog and do video and write for different purposes than I had known. He and his awesome wife have a marketing business and also have a wedding business. They kindly give me writing assignments so that I can keep up my writing skills. I have learned search-engine optimization through them. That means I get to combine regular writing and advertising while focusing on key marketing terms then blend them all magically into a cohesive and interesting article. I love it! I also joined a local writer’s group, the Laguna Madre Writer’s Forum and felt immediately accepted and respected. They loved the works that I shared. My goal this year is to work on my book more as it is going to help so many people.
My being online has enriched my social life. Sandyfeet, the amazing person and sandsculptor, and Sam Wells, the vivacious thinker and avid fisherman were met through the technical tentacles this computer sends out. I met the wonderful crew down at the KOA this year because of my blog and that led to many, many good times with those incredible folks. I got my present job online and absolutely love it! (Every time one job ends for me, another opportunity comes right along and I have never have to go more than one day without work. God has always provided me with work and I am truly blessed in that fashion.) I love my new job and keep getting compliments on from the clientele. The last group said they could tell I love it. That has always been the case for me; people can tell I love my job and that helps them enjoy it too. Many, many people contact me online to ask about the South Padre Island area and ask my honest opinion on things and I tell them. People can tell at work that I am honest and they appreciate that. I give them my honest opinion about what I think would be best for them and I am usually right and that makes for a better experience for them.
I have been asked, “Why are you always happy?” or “Are you ever in a bad mood?” – I choose to be happy. Abraham Lincoln said, “A man is about as happy as he sets his mind out to be.” I have read so many self-help books and have been through enough that I KNOW that happiness or misery is my choice. I can lead my mind where I want it to be. I can make myself cry when I think of children suffering, horrible events, and when I chastize myself for past mistakes or I can lead my mind to pleasant places, accept my shortcomings and tell myself it is alright, I am taken care of, God is with me. I can either berate myself for not being the perfect person I was supposed to be or accept that I am not perfect, have made some idiotic choices, forgive myself and must learn to make better choices in the future. I can dwell on my losses, inadequacies, continual dieting failures or can learn to accept that I am a work in progress and can, with practice, create new, good habits. I have learned to practice living in the moment and enjoying life NOW. I have learned that I need to just be glad for being right here, right now, at this time in my life. There is no need to dwell on the past because it is GONE, really. (Airlines have a limit on carry-on baggage for a reason!) The smart thing to do is take the lesson learned from each experience and use it to make a better life so I start every day anew, using the tools and techniques I know work for me to have the ultimate day I can. My goal is to continue to lead myself in the right direction all the time, everyday. I am not aiming for perfection, just improvement spiritually, emotionally, physically and in my home and love life.
I know that my parents who have gone on to heaven obviously had a hand in putting me here and allowing me to meet my present husband. I am still in awe of how wives survive losing their husbands, like my mom did hers (to diabetes) and am terrified of losing mine. We have his major surgery coming up in January and my only hope is that he makes it solidly through the operation and any ensuing infections. That is our fear – infection. My goal for the next year is to keep an awesomely clean, uncluttered and impressive house and make our bedroom the most wonderful, cozy recuperating room he could ever have. We got a fancy big TV at a ridiculously marked down price and are going to set that up today with a surround sound system for his recuperating comfort and enjoyment. My goal is to be the most comforting, inspiring, caring home-health provider in the world to him. I will be better than any other home-health provider we could have hired because I can provide back and neck massages, kiss him, hold him and there is nothing like love to heal someone. (Scientists have done experiments where the control group of babies that were held and loved survived while the ones who were just fed and changed and received no cuddling, carressing and felt no love, got sick and died.) I plan to use all the love and care I can to help my husband heal completely. The most inspiring love story that had to do with health came from Jacky and Jerry Wilson at http://www.southpadrelive.com/ I don’t have permission to share it online because it is their story and I haven’t asked if I can but boy is it inspiring and beautiful. I want that. I want at least ten more years with my husband. That is all I want for Christmas and New Year’s.
People used my blog for guidance and entertainment and inspiration and that was my goal. I had the greatest time with my husband this past year. We lived in the moment, enjoyed good times and good food and laughed and loved alot. My daughter finally quit being unhappy and dissatisfied and accepted our lifestyle. We are not rich but she is not hurting for a damn thing so she accepted that she is not rich, but still better off than a lot of folk, even though most of her friends come from wealthy families who live in Laguna Vista. Her BEST friend right now lives in the projects here in this town and I am SO glad. This little girl with 6 brothers and sisters has proven herself to be of good judgement, modest, polite, well-behaved and smarter socially than the other spoiled brats out of Laguna Vista that my daughter was hanging out with. Money has a tendency to corrupt and spoil people and it was that bad, spoiled young crowd who thought they were above the rest that my daughter began the year with. They had no work ethic because everything was handed to them. Homework and school became secondary. All of a sudden what me and my husband were able to provide was not good enough. My daughter was not going to be happy with a used car for her first car because all her friends’ first cars were new trucks and brand-new cars. Her girlfriends all had designer clothes and expensive electronic gadgets and toys. Now, she is with this precious, modest girl and has her childhood priorities back. She has chilled, is content, and is even happy a lot and tells me, “I love you,” all the time. She even goes into our bedroom to watch TV with us or to chat, where she was having NONE of my new husband before. They were actually having screaming matches at some points and I was caught in the middle of that hell. There is nothing like being torn between the people you love most when they are at odds. Most people know I am calm, content and mostly happy all day long. When they would be fighting I would get so stressed and upset, it was like bad vibes were going through me and that was messing up MY calm and cool vibes. (We are all beings of energy and have our own vibes, auras or whatever your energy field to be called and they should be peaceful and calm.) That drama was so unnecessary and hurtful. Drama is good for tv but not your own house. ALL that is over and they have accepted each other and their differences. It is a pleasure even to be together now; we have enjoyed movies, fine dinners and many heart-to-heart talks this year and I owe it all to God’s grace. I owe my WHOLE LIFE to God’s grace. I would not be here if it were not for the miracle of God’s grace in my life and I hope that you reading this will be grateful for all you have and make the most of today.